i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dogi want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

I questioned myself as a woman. I dont want to have to take a back seat because of two needy dogs. But everything is secret im not allowed to know anything whats going on, she secretly talks to our kids behind closed doors and i have no authority over them or my money goes into the bank weekly with no clue where it goes i must say she earns more than me i think, and i get sleep back to back with her and a dog!. All I am asking for is to have one room of my own this isnt overrun by dog hair. I need you to think about yourself for a movement. I cant help that, he was like that when he came to me from his last family. He will not read about it or acknowledge it. B Thank you so much for writing back. But they always had strict boundaries, training and manners. We had the exact same problem except I had two dogs when I met my boyfriend. We had to move away and the dogs stayed behind we cant have them right now (thankfully), what I relieve to finally had the bed together as a newly married couple and have quality time together without 2 needy dogs around. I do not want to toss out my engagement but I do not know how much more I can take. When I just arrived, he didnt want me to sleep with him because he didnt want to disturb the dogs, who slept in the bed every night! This dog is seriously ruining my life. My neighbors tell me that they see my SO with the dog more then they see my child. I feel selfish if i ask that he takes the cat back to the shelter. In any case, Im not saying either of you is right/wrong, but just trying to shed some light! , ..but my man dont even ask about mine either, or say he wants to visit them or anything and that makes me sad cause im alwasy over there i just dont know what to do!!!! I hate when the dog gets up because hair just flys off of her. The dog is constantly shoved down my throat, we cannot go anywhere with out the dog, and cannot plan a vacation or anything else that does not allow pets, his whole world is around that dog. I was very harsh dragging her by the leash when she wouldnt come and spanking her what she pottied in the house.the day I got her for shots she was so small and not very healthy that she got sick. My advice to anyone thinking of getting a dog is to be really clear how your partner feels about them first. We have often talked about moving to the country; I would say how much Id love to get a dog and train it, go on walks with it, etc. I can tell she isnt happy with the dog there, with the way life is. My dog is naturally well behaves she just begs when we have food but if u ignore her she stops. If she didnt get her way, shed start washing her private area for a very, very, long time. I take responsibility for that, and being stupid enough to think this man could ever take care of anything like you would assume an adult would do. Please advise ? I dont want this puppy to be a toy and go from home to home but no one seems my point. But my dogs have never slept in my room. I knew he loved his dog going in, but it wasnt until we started dating that I saw just how much his dog sheds and how insane his love is for his pet. Id chosen the colour of the carpets and walls and was so excited showing him. So I am dealing with a situation with my husband agreeing on taking care of his brothers dog for a YEAR as he and his family gallivant across Europe, without consulting with his entire family. Shes sometimes peeing in the bed or pooping on the floor even tho she was outside but I always told myself her behavior is like that because of her negative past. Also, it will become difficult for you when your baby arrives and I fear the dog will really be mistreated. I have a spouse who has gradually, over many years, eliminated any actual friends I might have that are not actually his own friends. Mine lets the dog in the sofa and the bed even though I told her I didnt like it. I think the real issue is over the past 13 years my partner has had it one way and his way, and now that I request things be different he finds the demands unreasonable and defends his dog. My birds Ive had for 20 years. She was 8 weeks old and super tiny and cute. then why cant SHE take the cat, if its hers? Some husbands/boyfriends decide to rehome their dogs as a result of being exhausted by endeavoring to provide sufficient exercise on a daily basis. I felt I needed to make a home for this cat. I asked him why hed never told me this before and why had he let me go for so long under the impression that I would someday have a dog. So dont place a lot of credibility in that theory either. Instead, what you have to do is that identify what influences this disagreeable behavior. Here is my problem, my Husband is the dog lover, I love all trained obiediant animals, my husband sat with me and talked about getting a breed that requires extensive daily interactions and training, i told him i was not ready for that commitment, it would fall mainly on him. First off I love animals. Later, when you are both ready and in agreement, you could develop a plan (with clear conditions) to re-introduce the dogs. And this is how I feel about my boyfriends pets. I am in a very stressful relationship where I love both my dog and partner. My desire to complete my furry family is running strong. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). I truly love this girl but Im on my way out! If someone wants to to change/abandon such a big part of your life it is a huge wake up call. Going to the kitchen, having a snack or a meal he is by my side begging at any opportunity he gets. Everything is the dog. STOP being so self involved and worrying about your own feelings. Hang in there. Basically, she made a conscious choice to choose the dog and the current state of affairs over me. Try to clean the house every day prior to the arrival of the husband/boyfriend. Im so stressed out in my own home its not fair. He leaves existing holes alone now but chews another one. A found an add for a yorkiepoo for 250 bucks. I have read comments about peoples marriages crumbling because of an animal. So when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. and has a nasty, intimidating growl anytime another dog comes near those things. Im not a dog person to begin with so I absolutely HATE to come home just to find new holes and new destruction. I tell him to get her off and he just thought it was no big deal -_- and in the pictures he was sending it felt like I was seeing a couple being all snuggly on two couches and he would tell me she would stare at when he wakes up or falls asleep. We recently found out I have antibodies in my blood that could be harmful to me and the baby, so I felt overwhelmed with stress. He is a dog owner himself, but has always adopted older animals, so he has never dealt with the puppy stage. Its really a crutch. Then you need to take action to solve whatever issue the dog has with that promise on your hand, resulting in the husband/boyfriend refusing to get rid of the dog. It is not fair for anyone to have to give up an animal they care for or accept one that they hate. He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. To add insult to injury, my bf recently got ANOTHER goldendoodle to keep this one company. Dog people will try to tell you that you shouldnt mind having your life covered in fur, but folks like you and me arent trying to hear that nonsense. )this dog is awful! Even more frustrating, this 15 year old pitbull acts no older than 4 or 5 years of age. I cant trust the dog around our, and I cant trust my wife to do the right thing for her family. We argue for 15 mins about the dog and I ask him to leave. Get advice from a dog behaviorist: But, you shouldnt do this right away as you realize the reason. I will never understand why people get this breed of dog in cities, it really upsets me. Mainly because I decided to focus on my relationship instead of a small dog problems even if it could be seen as a big one I finally decided not to let it but just let the dog into my heart more each and everyday. I already have a 11month old shepard mix male. Lots of relationships get stressed and dog lovers are incredibly strange in what they tolerate. You hate him! End discussion. She would tell me anything about them like videotaping them eating an eggwow big deal. I mean seriously, who doesnt like puppies? I want it to work. I hurt inside feeling the way I do about this dog, and whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend about how I feel he just says its stupid your jealous of a dog, its just dumb. My baby is 8 months now with asthma and gets rashes and has eczemathe doctor said to keep the dog away from the baby because the dog is part of the problem but HE WILL NOT do that even of our lives depended on it. Thought if I could help train, it would turn out okay. You already have another and dont need that sloppy thing. Only a month would be sufficient. Nails hitting the hardwood floor?? Shes a one person dog. And we did. Clothes included. ?When I see this I automatically assume the person /owner has mental health issues or is intellectually challenged. How much would you resent your husband if you did so? Im not against the dog, dogs in general are just not for me anymore. The episode featured a family (husband, wife, 2 teenage kids) and their Pomeranian. If he would just put effort into training I know wed see a difference. We cant leave Jake alone. I ended up ordering our food to go, but still. The last straw was when i suffered a severe allergic reaction ( couldnt breathe and eyes swole to the size of an apple)to the cats hair and was told by the doc to immediately remove any pets lest i wanted to risk life long asthma attacks, my husband to my utter shock defended the cat and refused to remove it as a precautionary measure. Ya, a poor greedy baby that could not stay out of cat food. I feel a relationship should be a balance.. I feel like she loves these cats more than she does me. :\ just getting to much with her sometimes its like I cant trust her at all when shes alone. The biggest mistake was bringing the dog into the bed because now hes trained to think thats where hes supposed to be. The problem is that my boyfriend for the most part responds with yelling horribly at him. Ive actually stopped sleeping in the same bed because Fido hogs up so much of the bed that I cant ever get comfortable, so Im now sleeping in the 2nd bedroom while my boyfriend and the dog sleep together! I dont think they can bark like a real dog. He doesnt feed him, water him, or even acknowledge him except for when he has an accident which may be once a month. There is some anthropomorphising going on here but in the most negative and stupid way! He has rescued two cats and three dogs over the years. Weve had him for 6 years now and the experience has been mostly positive. The more I read about this in other blogs the more I realize its not even the dogs fault its his! Because my GF allows it now all people must suffer. Back to me and my girlfriend. Why would anyone want to be with someone like that, pets or no pets? Discuss with the husband/boyfriend: He is your love. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a discussion about the compromises you will both make. i really dont know what to do. Never for one second did we assume our dogs were our children. Also, youre flat out insulting Infertile folks whose only babies could ever be their fur babies and for people who have only ever been truly loved by them aside from their human counterparts. He is well behaved, obedient i took him to puppy classes i give him love he is not spoiled he listens to me. In your case he made it so clear that his dog is number one in his life and if you were ever to get married to him you will forever take a back seat to that animal and its master. I wonder if its possible to have a healthy relationship with a Dog Nut, as they will always place their pet as #1. A dog is an animal period, it has no human characteristics!!! !.my brother had a beautiful border collie which he allowed to get bored and she started to round up the neighbours children.he was going to get her put to sleep so I took her in.shes a fabulous dog and I love her to bits.my boyfriend hates her however and now doesnt want to move in with me because of the hair,the smell,the noise etcIm guttedreally devastated.what should I do? Then suddenly, he brings he dog to the new house!! I feel I dont have any place except in one our bathroom in our home, my husband now wants the min pin to sleep in our bed. If you hate your spouses animals, you should leave. I told her she could keep the dog if she promises to keep them separate at all times. Not only did he bring his dog on our first date, but the second and third as well. vocally, he is loud in the middle of the night, and first thing in the morning, until he has the ability to be right next to her. He had some trouble with house training but overall was doing well. He just took her in and expected me to be on board. And yes my partner is obsessed with his dog, what he eats, he cant havw treats, B12 and other injections have to be given to him, other medications, etc. If sleep deprivation was the worst of it, I could live with that but as many people have mentioned in their cases, there is always drool around the house and hair everywhere and I mean at the end of the week you could fill a small garbage bag. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. See I never knew I wouldnt enjoy living with dogs before I did and I find it so unprofessional of people to say things like divorce them, or they are control freaks in response to a spouse who cannot stand a dog. Neither of us can fix it. Each has a place for love in your life one animal one human..HELLO! I dont even know where to start. I knew his dog shed but BOY OH BOY did I not realize to what extent!!! im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. My wife has a bed for him set up in the shower because since he suffers from extreme anxiety, she said that is his safe place. Who is going to care for it? To which she replies I thought you would. Stacy, even though the dog that has brought me great pain, had to have surgery due to recurrent hematomas under one ear flap that half her ear flap was removed at 13 years of age. You, and those like you, anthropomorphize human feelings onto dogs. Gosh That just tells us how your character is. She has made me want to live again and taught me loving kindness. I have bought a pretend, fur real, cat to sit in my lap, its not the same. To a hotel by myself? She said she would compromise and not let the dog on human spaces. There wasnt one day that I would go to her place without getting drool all over my pants that looked like someone blew their nose on my leg!! Doesnt see our kids. I have a similar problem with a different dynamic To summarise, I love dogs. I am married 4 years and must admit that i have never had pets. About 3yrs ago he bought a house & installed wood floors and (as you all know) cats run around from time to time. Shes training them to bark because they bark and get their way!!! My boyfriends dog slept with us at first but my health deteriorated, to the point my doctor told me we had to get rid of her because my lungs were on the verge of irreversible lung damage, but my boyfriend refused to get rid of her so you have to find solutions. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. I admit I have also spent considerable time and energy to train them to live with us in harmony. This is what is promoted through the media and this is what many people buy into. One time I sat down and my pajama bottoms were wet. For starters we agreed no dogs on the couch as it is my couch from the start, we also agreed that she will sleep in a kennel. Hes many times now said I will be gone before the dog. We had a neighbor who had one of those and it drove us crazy. The reality is MUCH different! In fact, thats how we ended up getting together. My SO and I have been together for 4.5 yrs and he moved in 3.5yrs ago with his cat. He has two old dogs. Also, every time we eat, he stands right next to us at the table breathing heavy and drooling and I tell him to go away and my wife tells me not to get mad at him. You may find that one of you is simply less in love with your pets than the other. The problem is mutual. I cant live like that. Taking care of an animal is a good way to gauge how well you work as a team and to find out what makes your partner tick. So I consciously made an effort to not make high pitch sounds and to say hi to hubs first. Hahahah. Things are getting bad. Good luck. Sorry you are having these struggles too. He did not cross that line, but he was definitely in love with his dog. But, it is still his dog and he is the one that gets to make that final decision, not you. NO they are not like kids its not even remotely the same. My boyfriend has an annoying Jack Russell, that my 9 year old daughter loves & I do at times . Thank you guys for your advice; really appreciate it and it comforts me knowing Im not alone. I refuse to leave with a dog that stinks like s***. If its just the pet and the relationship is valuable to you, the fight over an animal isnt worth the toll on the relationship. recently broke up but live together. She feels that I should be taking care of her pet since it is part of her life. The wife admitted that she babied and held the dog all the time because she was feeling some kind of way now that her kids were teenagers and werent as dependent on her as much anymore. 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